I'm curious, do you feel it is okay to be angry? I know growing up I was not allowed to be angry. I was told I had no right to be angry. So instead I I’m stuffed and repressed my anger for years, which only resulted in me exploding when I would hit that boiling point. Repressed anger displays itself as rage. This is why people in general see anger as a bad thing. The reality is, anger when used properly is very healing.
What does the bible say about anger? Ephesians 4:26 says: Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger. In other words, take the time to discuss the thing(s) that are making you angry with whomever it is you are angry with. If that is not possible, then do as Psalm 4:4 says – Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. Sometimes the best thing to do, is to just walk away, so we do not say things we will later regret, ie…don’t let your anger control you.
We can use our anger to heal a situation or allow it to escalate into a demeaning argument. The issue is this, as I stated previously, most of us were never taught that being angry was okay, or right. We were never taught how to properly channel that anger. Never taught how to express in a loving way. Like myself, we were only taught that anger was a bad thing. That we had no right to be angry at which time a plethora of reasons was released on us as to why it was wrong.
Next time you’re angry about something, express it in a loving way. If the person your expressing it to says you have no right to be angry they’re wrong, simply walk away and let them own their own feelings.
Be sure to tune into the Healing Courageously podcast titled "Anger or Rage" where my wife and I dive deeper into this subject. Coming Monday Feb. 28, 2022
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